Letter to the Editor: Non-communicable?

To the Editor:
What’s going on when all of a sudden it seems like folks just don’t “see” you?  You know, I’m talking about those times when people pretend they don’t recognize you or are busy doing something else. The fact is they may not see anything different about you, but they have heard you have an illness.
I enjoy approaching folks ignoring me and simply saying hello. Typical responses include, “Oh, I didn’t expect to see you here!”  Or, “I was going to stop by, but I didn’t know when would be a good time.” My personal favorite, “Hey, good to see you. I was wondering how are you really doing?”
There is always an out-pouring of concern, or more appropriately referred to as “gushing: “It’s nice to see you out and about.” “You are looking so good.” “Is there going to be a benefit for you?” “I hear there is all kinds of help out there now for people like you!” Along with a number of other comments, too numerous to mention, that come off as empty expressions of caring.
This is a part of reality when you have a non-communicable disease or mental illness. I believe people choose certain pat phrases and questions because it’s easier than trying to find their hearts. Thankfully, I can report being extremely fortunate to having incredibly heartfelt responses from the folks I consider my circle of friends, family and community.  
FYI, my answer to the question about how I am “really doing?” As long as Milty’s has catfish on their menu I will be just fine, thank you very much.

Ann Gallagher
a/k/a Catfish Annie
Waukon